Are you on social media – Twitter, Facebook, Snapchat, Instagram and the rest? Yes you are? Then this message is for you.
Somehow, it occurred to me that Twitter especially lets people have unrealistic expectations about this marriage thing. Most people would tweet about feminism and how that means not cooking for your husband (after all, you’re equal), how you shouldn’t let any man walk over you (do men still walk over women? I hope not), how submission to a man is overrated (I hope you don’t believe this though) and the list goes on and on .
But topping the controversy table on social media is the debate about the need for a woman to cook for her husband. A lot of people believe a wife is not a cook, and argue that if the man wants a woman purely for cooking, then let him hire a cook.
Pause! Let’s be honest. How many guys do you know that earn well enough to hire a cook? Except for maybe celebrities and some Nigerians with good paying jobs? Selah
I will ask again: How many people do you know that can hire a cook?
Apparently, cooking especially is such a big deal for social media feminists or how else do you explain their outburst against Pastor Adeboye’s advice to his congregation where he told the guys in attendance not to marry any lady that cannot cook. Lol. The outbursts on Twitter were indeed funny. Which made me really laugh out loud cos the man wasn’t even addressing the Twitterverse to start with .
While I don’t consent to a man marrying a lady SOLELY for her cooking abilities (I doubt any right thinking man would anyway, and Pastor Adeboye was in no way insinuating that, by the way), however, I strongly believe women have responsibilities and that includes taking care of the home. Uhm Uhm.
Take it or leave it .
And of course, women can choose to contract such responsibilities to cooks, maids, whatever, if they can afford it and their husbands support it.
Which brings me to my second question – where do you look to for guidance as far as relationship/life is concerned? Social media or the Word of God?
Even though that’s a question, I’m silently hoping that your guidance doesn’t come from social media because a lot of people there are just people – some have worse circumstances than you and are still trying to figure their own lives – so getting your guidance for life from them is a no no no. You can learn from them, but guidance, no .
The word of God on the other hand is sharp and sure. It pierces to the soul. It helps us to be better individuals when we give it first place in our lives. The word – our guide book- is the right place for guidance for everything pertaining to life. For wisdom, for handling life’s struggles and for everything else in between. Look closely and watch people whose guidance comes from the Word, they are usually stable even when their circumstances are not and they sure radiate joy from the inside out because — they spend quality time hanging out with Jesus. Hello Bae .
Oh wait, you’re still not convinced about what I said about women having responsibilities to take care of their home? Well, here you go:
“She looks well to how things go in her household, and the bread of idleness (gossip, discontent, and self-pity) she will not eat”.
We all want to be like the Proverbs 31 woman but most of us think housekeeping shouldn’t be our responsibility. Or we don’t? .
Well, busted. Proverbs 31:27 clearly says, speaking of the virtuous woman, “she looks well to how things go in her household…”. Amen?
And as far as I am concerned, looking well to how things go in one’s household includes housekeeping and cooking, surely. So instead of wasting time on the social media debate, how about we follow prolific cooks on social media – to learn how to make delicacies that we don’t know how to make yet, fancy food dressing (I like this one a lot), how to make smoothies (because it just feels wrong not to know how to. Lol), and whatever great idea you might have *insert here*.
Like you, I’m not claiming to have it all figured out. As a matter of fact, I don’t. But I do have a Bible – different ones actually and I’m sold out to knowing more about what God says about what and meditating on them because this is the only thing that guarantees success (Psalm 1:2-3). I hope you are sold out to the Word too or about to make the decision to – because life is soooooooo much easier and fun that way .