Hello ladies, are you ready to laugh? Well, I hope you are.
There’s one area of life that most ladies are concerned about —marriage. This is especially true when you’re single. However, this is not to assume that every lady wants to get married, I’m aware of that. And if you fall under that category, it’s perfectly fine 👊.
So, I was saying for a long time, I was trying to be too nice to people I had no business being ‘super’ nice to.
Let me give you a funny example, there was this friend of mine, a guy of course. Let me not put his name here for Christ sake 😜.
So, I liked this my friend and you know what we ladies sometimes do, “we read meaning into almost everything”. Even when the poor guy says simple “how was work”, we re-examine the intent and simply conclude that the man loves us. Like really? 😂
Suffice to say, this friend and I were close and we were even in the same fellowship. And I would be gawking in my mind that he likes me and he would ask me out soon.
But the poor man had no idea what was going on in my mind 😩.
And there were even times that I’d be acting up and he’d ask ‘are you okay’ and I’d say ‘yes’. Lol. Even though nothing was okay cos I was expecting him to be acting like we were dating. But we weren’t. Amen? 😂
One time I was so mad cos I wondered why he wasn’t doing some things—like show he cared.
But can I be real? If he doesn’t show it, then he doesn’t care. It’s actually that simple!
I remember during that period, late Chaz B was invited for a relationship series in my church, and while responding to a lady’s question of why a certain guy doesn’t treat her like his wife said ‘if he doesn’t treat you like his wife, chances are you’re not’. Truth is, guys (from what some of them say) usually know when they meet their wives and boy, there’s a way guys treat their ‘wives’ even before they eventually marry them 😍.
That realization was painful and liberating to me at the same time. In my mind, I packed my load 😂 and told God I was sorry for running ahead of Him. And guess what? After I did that, God did show His face and in all honesty exceeded my expectations 💃🏻.
What I am saying is, being so desperate about having a relationship is not going to get you one. It will only leave you frazzled and frustrated and that isn’t good for you, pretty one 😋.
So, chill and tell God ‘Lord, I believe your thoughts towards me are thoughts of good. I believe at the right time, my partner would come. But until then, I’ll continue to trust, develop myself and do good work. So help me God’.