So few months back, Omotola’s interview was shared on a certain website in Nigeria. In the interview, she spoke about her marriage and was even magnanimous enough to share her marriage success tip – total submission to her husband and of course, to God.
To me, such declaration from a Nollywood A-lister was bold and showed how fearless and how much she cared less about people’s judgements of her actions and inactions. However, what I found funny about this interview wasn’t the post in itself, but the very judgmental and negative comments submitted by tons of females 😩. They literally crucified 😒 her cos she was unapologetic about the fact that she ‘submits’ to her husband. This made me very concerned 😳.
What I don’t get is this, you go to a car shop, you buy your car but the car seller gives you a car manual that provides all the information you’d ever require for the new car to function optimally. And as stubborn as most of us are, we actually follow these manuals 😂.
So, if we’re so diligent in following a car manual, why wouldn’t we want to follow Gods manual of how a marriage should be? 😒.
We might want to ask ourselves whose idea marriage was in the first place: “and God said, it is not good for man to be alone”. That means it was 100% His idea from the beginning of time. So if Apple says, this is how to use our products for better experience, we the purchasers would be adamant and say “no Apple you’re wrong. We have better ideas”. 😂
I can bet none of us behaves like that or if we do, we’ll be extremely frustrated cos when Apple says this is how iTunes work, then that is how it will work whether we like it or not.
My point is this, you have no business desiring marriage if you have decided in your heart that “I’ll not submit to any man”. This is more or less you setting yourself up for a disappointment. The Bible says “wives submit to your husbands…” I believe the opposite of this will not work…at least not for long.
And honestly, submission really isn’t about your husband pushing you around. Good men don’t push their women around, 😜 but definitely want their women to be submissive to them. If you’re still waiting for Mr. Right but have previously decided that “even when he comes, it’s either my way or the highway”, then I’ll encourage you to pray this prayer “Dear Lord, I have been stubborn about following my own way. I do not just want a marriage, but a long lasting marriage full of joy and peace. And I know I will have no piece of that if I don’t do it your way. Lord, help me to make all the necessary mental adjustments I need to make in Jesus name, Amen!’