When I was little, I lived in fantasy land all day all week. I dreamed of living in castles, wearing long nice dresses in a palace…and sitting all year long beside a ‘prince charming’. You can’t really blame me, I grew up watching Cinderella movies and reading Nora Roberts love series.
But then that’s not an excuse…we have to face reality.
Ladies face temptations everyday (like men too). Sometimes unfair and ridiculous. We expect to meet a ‘prince charming on a white horse’ with perfect everything. Some call this kinda guy; the perfect man.
If you are still fifteen or sixteen, then maybe you can still drool over this just for the fun of it, cos then you’re really not ready anyway.
Of course, it’s good to have expectations of the men in our lives, like him treating you like a queen, calling your name the way no one else could even if they tried.
But then, we have to understand that no one is perfect. As cliche as this sounds, its very true. We expect men to be so perfect, and when they fall short of such expectations we begin to wonder whether or not we made the right choice. And it gets even more interesting when a new guy tries to get our attention…then we begin to compare.
But I’ve learned that no one, not even me is ever going to be perfect. We will learn, we will get better, we will make mistakes, we will correct them, but perfection? No way.
Meaning, we can enjoy our lives with that mindset. Whenever someone close to us messes up, instead of screaming ‘I can’t believe you did this’, or start wondering ‘Why can’t you just be like Tyler’, we can take a long walk just to calm our nerves.
David was the man after God’s own heart and if you know anything about him, you’d know that he was far from being perfect. That’s the kind of man we need. The man who fears God. The man who has a conscious. The man who will apologize for his mistakes. The man who is talented. The man who is His Maker’s buddy. The man who respects his mother. The man who loves his family. The man who cares about others like he cares for himself. The man who will make mistakes but willing to get better through God’s help. We don’t need billions. We need true love. We need friendship not just sexual pleasures. That’s who we need not some film character who lives on the screen.
I don’t know about you, but I know I don’t want a perfect man.
All I want is the man after God’s own heart 🙂