Before you delve into this post, let me quickly dispel something from your mind. This post is in no way suggesting that it is unnecessary to apologize when we hurt/offend others. No. That’s so far from the point I’m trying to make – like as far as Abuja is to London 😂.
My point is, if someone has hurt you and you’re waiting and expecting them to say sorry then you just might be on a really long thing, waiting for a really long time.
Let me share one wisdom God taught me – “sometimes people won’t say “I’m sorry” and you still have to forgive them”. Yep, you read right.
Few years ago, someone offended me. I mean someone I really, really and REALLY trusted. After the issue, I was waiting and expecting the person to realize their wrong and offer an apology. Just imagine, of all the important things to do in the world, Ms Genesis was sitting around waiting for someone’s apology 😩😩😂😂😂.
I bet God put up with it for a while cos at some point I was mad furious, disgusted and *insert another word similar to disgusted here* 😂.
Then after a while, God spoke tenderly to my heart to let the offense go “sometimes people won’t say “I’m sorry” and you still have to forgive them”.
Prior to this time, I felt nothing but hate for this person. Oh yes, and resentment too. And it was affecting me as a person. I wasn’t as joyful as I used to be because I was mad at some unrepentant person 🙊😂.
Long story short. I listened to Big J. Released this person in my heart and wait for this, I started praying for the person to progress and succeed in every good thing they laid hands on. This was honestly difficult because naturally I FELT like screaming and throwing sand at the person *not kidding o* 😂.
What I am saying is, holding on to Un-forgiveness will hinder you as a child of God. For one, God expects us to forgive others just the way He forgives us. Secondly, and most importantly, unforgiveness hinders our relationship with God 😔 – and that’s one relationship we can’t afford to toy with.
Did someone offend/hurt you and till now you can’t find it in your heart to let it go? 😔.
While I understand it’s not the easiest thing to do, I’d still implore you to please forgive them — not because they deserve it but because God said so—because you value your relationship with God more than the apology they’d ever offer for their wrong.
Think about this for a moment:
“…if you do not forgive others their trespasses [their reckless and willful sins, leaving them, letting them go, and giving up resentment], neither will your Father forgive you your trespasses.” – Matthew 6:15.
I think that verse is perfect. Because it acknowledges that sometimes people hurt people wilfully and due to recklessness not necessarily by accident. BUT regardless of this fact, the verse went on to admonish us to LEAVE THEM, LETTING THEM GO and GIVE UP RESENTMENT.
See, it’s perfectly okay to tell God how you feel (this is my specialisation, by the way 😂. I tell Him how I feel even when it sounds awkward. And you can too). Just also remember to ask Him to help and show you how to let it go 😉.
God healed my broken heart and filled me with His love and Presence when I released the person in my mind. He will do the same for you as you listen to His voice.
NEWSFLASH: By the way, the person that offended me hasn’t apologized till today. Now imagine how many years of happiness I would have lost because of an offence 😂😂😂😂😂😂.
Trust me, It’s sooooo not worth it 🏃🏾.
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